In the wake of the shocking US election results, what sometimes seems like an agreed-upon virtue has become controversial: the demand for empathy.
Writing in the New York Times, longtime Democrat Rabbi Michael Lerner has put out a call for empathy towards the many voters who supported Trump. As Lerner sees it, there are deep class fissures in America coupled with a spiritual crisis that requires redress. “We need to reach out to Trump voters,” Lerner writes, “in a spirit of empathy and contrition. Only then can we help working people understand that they do not live in a meritocracy, that their intuition that the system is rigged is correct (but it is not by those whom they had been taught to blame) and that their pain and rage is legitimate.”
It seems reasonable on its face: Lerner has long deployed the tool of compassion in what he has called the need for a “politics of meaning.” (His ideas were especially prevalent during the early 1990s when he had the ear of the Clinton White House, and in particular then-First-Lady Hillary Clinton.)
At the same time, it’s easy to see how Lerner’s position could rankle. Critics would say that the oppressed shouldn’t be required to empathize with the oppressor. And there was plenty of oppressive and hurtful and violent discourse emanating from Trump’s campaign.
For my part, I am no stranger to the empathy debate in my own work on Israel-Palestine. But I admit a deep uncertainty about it — even, I will admit, a personal moral and intellectual flip-flopping. Sometimes I’ve actively embraced empathy as a scholarly tool. At other times I’ve actively rejected it. I’ve used it when I’ve draw on a narratives approach to understanding Israeli policy. And I’ve eschewed it, most recently in a co-authored op-ed last summer where Peter Eisenstadt and I argued that the Palestinians should not be required to empathize with the Israeli narrative: that a rights-forward discourse instead implies more urgent action.
The middle ground, of course, is the ordinary tool of the scholarly trade, and that is simply to seek to understand. It’s a position that academics — especially in IR — use much of the time.
In his blog, Jeremy Pressman has offered some smart and concise reasons for why Hillary lost.
There’s a middle-ground position between understanding and empathy. Michael Moore has been an important voice in translating the sensibility of middle America to those of us who may not be listening as closely as we should be. For a clarifying vision, listen to the 45-minute segment of Morning Joe where Moore speaks with great eloquence of the poisoned water of Flint, Michigan (and how hurtful it was to those residents when President Obama drank from a glass of tap water to declare the problem fixed when, according to Moore, it was anything but); the baseball caps so integral to Trump’s campaign; and America’s celebrity culture drawing us towards certain types of candidates and away from others. Moore understands Trump voters, he tells us. Like many of them, he is a White man who is over 35 and who has only a high school education. (And — something which is obvious to his TV and film viewers but which goes unstated in that interview — Moore almost always wears a baseball cap. Though unlike most of these Trump voters, of course, Moore has won an Oscar and been nominated for another, and reportedly has a net worth of $50 million.)
And so the question remains: when it comes to understanding why other voters vote the way they do, must we extend empathy to their understandable economic plight when the platform of the candidate for whom they voted was based not only on promises to bring back jobs and make the country “great again” but also on racism, sexism, xenophobia, Islamophobia and antisemitism? Do we extend empathy in spite of those things, or have those voters forfeited their right to be empathized with?
Patrick Thaddeus Jackson has microblogged telling voters that saying “‘”I voted for candidate X because of her/his position on A’ doesn’t absolve you of responsibility for supporting candidate X’s positions on B, C, and so on.”
Jackson continues:
So please remember when you are talking to someone who disagrees with your candidate on one of those other issues, you do *not* get to ignore that position or otherwise pretend that it doesn’t exist. Instead, you have to *justify* why, for you, the issue(s) that mattered most to you were more important than those other issues.
And please remember that when those other issues involve people’s identities, your vote…supports a candidate with a stance on those identities, whether we are are talking about race, gender, religion, sexual orientation, or whatever else. Especially if your candidate was opposed to recognizing those identities as fully deserving of the same rights as others. Keeping this in mind may help to explain, or at least sensitize you to, the emotional context of so many of these post-election discussions.
Jackson doesn’t necessarily come down on either side of the empathy debate. But his call for cognitive complexity — to always remember the basket of issues at play in any given election — is helpful here. In this spirit, I suppose that we can seek to empathize with Trump voters’ economic pain while making clear our value boundaries when it comes to basic standards of human decency and dignity. And for those for whom empathy is too much to expect right now — for those who are feeling that the pain wrought by the ugliness of the Trump campaign and the aftermath we all fear — is just too enveloping, at least those voters, in the meantime, can simply seek to understand. Now go watch the Michael Moore segment and let’s talk.
Empathy is a very popular word, and mushy in meaning. To the extent it means “feeling with”, I don’t want to feel racism, misogyny, and whatever it is that propels a leering Confederate flag-waver. Just no.
Compassion requires that we feel another’s pain and help to comfort them. That is a possibility. Both come from similar-meaning roots, empathy from the Greek, compassion from the Latin. Their uses dominate their current meanings.
So I’m willing to feel compassion for whatever pain Trump voters are feeling. But are they feeling pain? I would like to know a bit more about that. The information so far does not encourage me. Trump voters seem to have above-average incomes. 53% of white women voted for him. Was that because of pain? I don’t know
And then there is the question of who is urging empathy or compassion on whom, and whether they themselves are displaying it in doing that urging. I’m not questioning the motives of the author of this post, but rather of those on the winning electoral side who are more or less coercively urging that empathy. What empathy or compassion did they display during the campaign? Does their empathy or compassion extend to shutting down the hatred emanating from their side?
I’m a 68 yr old, white, retiree and resident of FL. I voted against the President Elect.
My candidate had been disappeared, and I gave my vote to Mrs Clinton.
I was devastated by the results, but I’m coming to some sort of equilibrium.
Just remember, the President Elect called Bernie, crazy. No Party Affiliation.
that Lincoln guy really should have considered the feelings of those that first fired on Ft. Sumter. they were slaveholders, beset on all sides by people telling them how they, and their quaint little institution, were just horrible and immoral, and not at all Christian like. they know, in their heart-of-hearts, that God himself is ok with them owning Africans. it’s right there in the Southern Baptist (a church started to provide religious legitimacy for slavery) Bible, and the Bible wouldn’t lie, now would it?
instead of responding to this act of treason with force, Lincoln should have sat down with the traitors, with cigars and a bottle or two of really good whiskey, and found out what it would have taken to make them happy. that’s what an empathetic guy would have done.
that it would have resulted in two separate countries sharing the same space might, by some close-minded folk, be seen as failure on Lincoln’s part, shouldn’t have stopped him from trying, dammit.
so yeah, this Rabbi is a tool. there is no common ground to be found, by me, or any other right thinking citizen, between us and Trump’s racist/misogynist/homophobic/xenophobic/anti-semitic followers.
there just isn’t.